After being discharged on Wednesday, we went down to see
Caleb for a few minutes. To my surprise, and what a blessing, I was able to
hold him for about an hour. I couldn't believe my body felt great for that
amount of time. He was alert and active for the first little while. We just
gazed into each others eyes. Ah, it was heaven. Then he fell asleep so
peacefully. I had glimpses of sitting on my rocking chair at home, and just
holding him while he slept. For the first time in a very long time, I could see
glimpses of the future. My life after the hospital and recovery.
I do have to admit, I was somewhat thankful, that he is
still on oxygen. They were trying to wean him off, but he struggled just a bit,
without any. So they put him back on with 1/2 liter of oxygen. The reason I was
thankful that he was still needing the support, was because I was feeling
overwhelmed with taking him home any time soon. My recovery has been so much
worse than normal, that I am just not able to do for him what he needs right
now. I am so thankful that he has the nurses and doctors that he needs right
now. They care for him with such love and gentleness. It's so comforting.
We went home for the first time in 8 weeks Wednesday
night. I was so apprehensive about going home for some reason. As we got
closer tpo home, I felt more and more at peace. My fears began to subside, and
with each mile closer, I felt more and more confident. More and more weight was
literally lifted of my shoulders. It's so weird and hard to explain. Unless you
have gone though something like it... You just have to take my word for it.
When you leave for long periods of time to go live another life, then suddenly
give that all up and return to your old life, it's just a strange feeling.
The girls were so excited and surprised to see us. They
immediately brought out their new artwork and treasures for us to observe. They
brought out brushes and lotion. they brushed my hair and rubbed my legs and
feet. it was so cute and sweet. Grandma and Grandpa had a movie night with ice
cream planned out. The girls snuggled with Trever during the movie. I felt bad
that I couldn't hold them when they asked. I had to tell them mommy was still
not well, so I couldn't hold them. Sweet Becka kept coming to me. She would act
like she wanted me to hold her. I would just touch her face and burry her face
in my lap. (That is as close to a hug as I could get, without bending over) she
seemed to understand completely, that I wanted to give her more but couldn't.
It was as if her little spirit understood completely.
The girls have been dealing with much fear and anxiety the
past couple of days. They are worried every time I talk about going to the
hospital or anywhere, that I won't come back. At least not for a while. It is
hard to watch them go through it. It's a natural reaction, especially with what
they have been through. Lots of snuggles and lovin will help bring the feeling
of stability back into their lives. They have had a rough and shaky road the
past 4 months.
The longer I am home, the more I long to stay home. I knew I
was supposed to stay in Phoenix that first week out of the hospital. Looking
back now, I needed it for my recovery. Not to mention for the complications I
had, post surgery. I'm glad we close to get those things fixed. The all of a
sudden I felt like I needed to be home now. My girls need me more than Caleb
does right now. I also need to allow myself more time to heal. I want to get my
body ready to be able to care for that sweet baby. Right now, though I feel
better every day, I'm not ready to give him what he needs. Soon though...soon
I think you are absolutely right. I wish you the best with your continued healing. There is no place like home. However jumping right into motherhood after what you have been through would be very overwhelming. You are an inspired women and have good instincts. Just be patient with yourself! Things will get better. Love you and admire you! You are still welcome here anytime. :) Still praying for your full recovery for you and your whole family.
ReplyDeleteYou are amazing, Jennie! You're a great example of Faith! I am 37.3 weeks along with our third and while I feel like any struggle I have is nothing compared to others, your posts have been so encouraging. I have been following your posts throughout this incredible journey! You have been such an example to me and have overcome so many obsticles with such grace!
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